Living with a child whom has ADHD, ODD, and Anxiety is ruff!!!!

Well I will start off by saying your not along in this world. I have been struggling with my son's ADHD since he was diagnosed in 2004 he was born in 2001. With several doctor's visits between having his seen and diagnosed to been told my child was just bad..My son has been on several medication's to list would be dexedrine, strattera, concerta, ritalin, adderall, and currently Biphentin. I have also tried the natural approach and nothing has seem to work. I have had to change doctors and seek help from high up medical boards as I have been told several times well we have done everything we can do. Right now he is on a waiting list for a day treatment which the waiting list is 2 years. On January 5th,2012 we finally got into see a pediatrician after asking doctor's for 5 years and have been told he didn't need it. Since he has been on medication he does not gain much weight and stomach problems. So, now since being to the appointment my son has to have an ultrasound on his stomach, bloodwork, and a change of medication. So sometimes when you fight to go above the doctor's to the head office's you will get more done. Any comments are welcome and I will post as I can.

Child comes home from school upset do to kids picking on him and making fun of his mole. The thing of this yes it hurt him but it also taught him what you do to other also hurts. I have explain several times don't pick,tease, hit,etc. to other kids its not nice and it hurts their feelings. I told my child see it does hurt and asked the question "did it hurt your feelings?" he said"yes" I said "now do you understand why I told you not to do it" I got no reply. I don't know what started it but it does hurt to see your child hurting but it was a listen learned. But with his disability he is implasive and will repeat it again and again not taking the time to stop and think of how he felt. So we let time go by and now it was time for chores which are small in my home. He needed to fill the wood box which takes two wheel barrel loads and 10 mins well it took him 35 mins and alot of complaining. First he tried to fill the wheel barrel like his dad does well that did not work it kept falling over. So I told him to take some out before he tried to move it again. YEA RIGHT!!! He just got mad and started kicking the house then ran to the back yard and started breaking ice until I gave in and move the wheel barrel to the front of the house and told him "its their now you go fill the wood box please". Well he did it but then said its full which it was not and i told him one more small load will do it. He finally completed it.

After that I asked him to dump my compost which he did pretty quick. I thanked him for this. The it was time for homework and it went pretty quick. Somedays are better than others. So, since he took so long doing the wood he had no time for tv or play he neded to eat and get ready for Taekwondo. We went no problem's there came home he shower and had a snack and then off to bed he went.

With just one day at a time I try so hard to deal with each item of my child's disorder as it comes. With having to smaller children at home and a husband whom work's full-time it sometimes make you feel as a single parent. Parenting is not no easy job and there are no course to teach you how to parent yes we have school to learn to succeed in life with knowledge but nothing to teach you a step by step guide. We learn from our parent and what we see, we take it all in and try to do our best trying to change the negative things from our past so we can make it better for our children. I have taken several course since my child has been diagnosed with ADHD,ODD, and Anxiety some of the items are the same in each course and refreshers are nice to you learn some new techniques along the way but sometimes nothing seems to work as hard as you try.

I live in Halifax,NS where we do have resource but not enough doctor's and nurse's to help the amount of children here waiting lists are what we have. Waiting list can be a month up to 3 years for somethings. I have been on lists that by the time the program was available to my child he was to old to take the program. I have work with the IWK and have worked with a program called ICTBB Team they are a time limited service that helps at your home and community based intervention for about 6 months. You get a case manager and a clinical supervisor that visit you home separately on different days once a week or as you need them. I thank them so much as when they were here life seemed a lot easier and the when they left it was like everything fell apart again we still had our mountains when they were here but it seemed much easier trying to deal with things as you always had someone for advise and someone else who step up to the plate and helped in any means possible. Working with them we were able to get things set up for my son at school and meet with more doctor's.

Since they have released us from the program a year ago its like everything relapsed school not complying no doctor shows they care and everything is waiting lists. Somedays I just wish I didn't have to get out of bed. I have contacted different TV shows asking for help but no response even through its says "wanna be on the show? pick a topic below" so I do but nothing.

I have also taking a program from home with my husband where we got a phone call one a week on the phone. A program that dealt with behaviour issuse's but it didn't seem to help. So, just last year in Sept.2011 I took a course called "The Incredible Years" this was a mandatory program for a Day treatment program that my son is on a wait list for which I called everyday this week to see where he stands on that list and get no reply back..Isn't that a kick in the butt. The program is great but was more of a refresher for me as it covered alot of the items I have been taught in the past with other courses. But, the best thing of all was to get out and talk with other parents for two hours and feel as if I was not alone.

A typical week in my home consist of timeouts and loss of privileges do to consistent disobeying,defying, lying, hitting,stealing, takes without asking,attitude larger than the grand cannon, yelling , screams high pitch squeals, rudeness, no manners, always blames someone else for what he did even if you see him do it and he is a very bossy boy. Don't get me wrong he can be the sweetest most kinda hearted boy when he wants to. He is very intelligent, musical, and can remember just about anything. He just has it hard to think before he does.

If I had one wish I would wish for these children with Adhd ,ODD, Anxiety, OCD, ADD, etc. had the help to succeed and we did not have to fight for it and yes there are school out there for these children but the cost alot of money and if I were to win a lottery this would be one of my first items on my list is to help my child go to a school and get the learning taught to him they way he can learn it. As I find some teachers are there for the kids some teachers are there for the money.

Well its time for me to sign off for today!!! Keep reading as I will try to post once a day!!!!

Remember all coments are welcome. Feed back and advice is better than nothing at all.